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Faith Current's avatar

I agree with Karen's comment. Curiousity is a feature, not a bug. ElizabethGilbert points out that if you haven't found your passion, curiousity is a good place to look for it. And she also points out that if you never find your passion -- the thing you can concentrate on to the exclusion of all other temptations -- then having lived a life of curiousity is not a bad alternative.

Having spent most of my life agonizing over not being able to choose one thing, I've had a pretty great and interesting life as a result of the searching.

Still... and having a few things that have stuck with me through it all, and now hopefully and increasingly feeling that I have finallly found the Intellectual True Love of My Life, I'm also aware of what I read once -- I think it was in one of those "10,0000 hour" books that were popular for a bit -- that to an expert, novelty is in the mastery of extreme detail. And that's the kind of focus that I really love, even beyond what I call "raccoon syndrome" ie, being tempted by the next shiny object. There is something very like meditation or prayer to me, to be lose myself in a nuance that would be of no interest or comprehension to someone who was just dabbling in the subject area. I do that increasingly these days and I find it so much richer than the Dabble.

But that said, I end where I began. I only found my true love by doing A LOT of speed (and not so speed) dating...

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Regarding your wide-reaching curiosity, I don’t see it as a bug, but as a feature. It tells me you’re interested in life and that you’re an interesting person to be around. That’s a win in my book.

My interests wax and wane for a variety of reasons and I don’t let that cycle get me down. That cycling is part of life, and I don’t think you should worry about it either. Children cycle through interests all the time and we adults encourage it. I don’t see why, as adults, we can’t wildly pursue interests that way too. Who says we must dedicate ourselves to one interest for an extended period? Is it because it’s the adult thing to do? Nonsense.

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